There are ups and downs in life. Looking back to the past, my first job was about web development. This job had considerable impact on me because I was lucky to meet a great boss and he taught me how to solve different kinds of problems. I really learned lots of knowledge of building website from this job. He also broadened my horizons, so I appreciated those days I cooperated with him and including several colleagues who I worked overtime together with. The other job is that I had worked in retailing. When I studied in college, our family opened up a stationery store because of my uncle. This job involves replenishment of merchandise, arrangement of products, and customer service. These things may not be very difficult, but it is not easy in practice, especially service to customers.
Day after day, People are busy making money for their lives. Perhaps we are not different from Sisyphus in Greek mythology. After reading a book related to the psychology of Alfred Adler, I am aware that our worries most come from interpersonal relationship. We are afraid that our ability are not as good as others. We hate being disliked by others. We can’t stand being hurt in human relations. The capital society with increasingly fierce competition enlarge these emotions. However, no one is perfect. We incline to the state of being better ourself, no matter who we are. Desire for freedom is human nature, nevertheless, that follow desire or impulse to live and roll down the hill at our convenience is not the freedom that Adler thinks of. The true freedom he believes in is the attitude that we roll ourself up the hill. We should not achieve recognition through rolling down the hill because at last you will become someone you don’t know.
“Find your passion, and in my experience, no matter what you do at work or what you do in official settings that passion will be grounded in people. It will be grounded in the relationships you have with people and what they think of you when your time comes.”, said Randy Pausch at the graduation ceremony of Carnegie Mellon University. This point is similar with “social interest” that Adler mentioned. We are all looking for our own place to settle down. You cannot find the place belong to us by just staying there and do nothing. You have to be proactive to participate in. Until obtaining a sense of belonging, that we would learn is accept ourself, trust people and contribute to the public. We might be get lost while trying to grasp it. Even if determination is shaken, we should avoid depending on “vertical relationship” and move forward of your own free will.